Long Distance Relationship

As long as I have remembered, I had always in a long distance relationship. It's the matter of how long is the long distance. My earliest relationship was a guy from Penang. He didn't live very far, probably just 30 minutes away. Then I moved to KL for my uni. Now, that's become a long distance.

My second bf is from well up north, way way way north. I'm talking near to the border of Thailand north. It wasn't too bad. Only 1.5 hours by bus. He's French by the way.

My current bf, who I love so so so much, lives in Perth. Now, that's a long distance.

I guess what I'm trying to say is being in a long distance is hard. I learned that the hard way from my two previous relationships.

It takes great amount of trust. By trust I meant by trusting your partner not to cheat on you. In long distance relationship, your mind and imagination can be your worst enemy.

Why didn't he pick up? Why didn't he sms me? What is taking him so long? What is he doing? Why is he staying up so late? Those are the common questions that might be running through your head.

Communication is the key here. Talk everything through. How you feel about his behavior. Even though it hurts, pour it all out. If you want him to do certain things like sms you every morning, tell him. Because in long distance, you can't possibly see what's going on the other end. And also remember, he's not a mind reader.

I learned that the hard way too. Lawrence was moving to Perth ( he's from Sydney ). He was busy with packing and all but he always find time to talk to me. Then suddenly, he went cold. No sms, no calls, no nothing. I was hurt. Really hurt. My mind was imagining the worst scenarios.

The breaking point was I started to ignore him too. Then we argue. It's silly actually. Well considering we were arguing through sms. Then I found out what had happened.

What I'm trying to say, communicate please. But it's a two way streets. He has to want to talk too.

In a long distance relationship, SKYPE is your best friends. You can talk for hours and hours and not get a hefty bills in the end. Our records : 7 hours of skyping non-stop. Can you beat that?

Long distance relationship shouldn't be permanent. Should not, should never be. If both of you click, and both of you want a future together, plan it. Plan for the future. Get your ass there or he move here. Like I've said, communication. Discuss the possibility of relocation and who should be doing that.

I would not encourage anyone having a long distance relationship. But I also know no one can control their feeling. If you're happened to be in a long distance relationship, all I can say is GOOD LUCK!